In the realm of healing, shamans do not turn away lightly. Their work is rooted in transformation, guiding individuals through deep energetic shifts. However, there are times when a shaman will refuse to help someone—or even advise others to walk away. Why? Because not all energy can or should be engaged with.
Some individuals, particularly those who thrive on control, chaos, or deception, are not seeking healing. Instead, they feed off the energy of others, draining rather than transforming. Shamans recognize this and understand that attempting to heal such a person can become an endless cycle of manipulation, suffering, and depletion.
Why a Shaman May Walk Away
- A lack of willingness to heal – True healing requires openness. Some individuals, especially sociopaths, have no intention of changing; they seek power, not transformation.
- Manipulation of spiritual work – Some use spiritual teachings to gain even more control over others, distorting wisdom for personal gain.
- Not every soul is yours to heal – Shamans understand that forcing healing where it is not welcome can have dire energetic consequences.
If You Are This Person
If you feel that healers, mentors, or even friends are distancing themselves from you, it’s time for deep self-reflection. Ask yourself:
- Are you truly seeking healing, or are you looking to control, avoid, or shift responsibility?
- Are you open to change, or are you using spiritual concepts to justify staying the same?
- Do you take energy from others without giving anything in return?
Healing starts with accountability. If you genuinely want change, surrender to the process. Find humility, accept that your ways may be harming both yourself and others, and commit to transformation—not just for the sake of keeping people around, but because you truly want to shift.
If You Are Trying to Help Someone Like This
It is natural to want to save someone, especially if you see their potential. But there’s a hard truth: You cannot heal someone who is not ready. In fact, your efforts may be feeding the very behaviors that drain you.
- Protect your energy – Step back and observe if your help is truly making a difference or if you are just being consumed.
- Do not become their source of light – They must find their own way. If you are constantly giving, they will never learn to sustain themselves.
- Let them face their own consequences – Sometimes, the only way a person will change is when they feel the full weight of their actions.
- Recognize when to walk away – If their energy begins to pull you into darkness, confusion, or exhaustion, it’s a sign that it’s time to let go.
The Hardest but Most Powerful Truth
Walking away is not an act of rejection—it is an act of wisdom. In a world where energy flows in both light and darkness, knowing when to step back is just as important as knowing when to step in. True healing is only possible for those who are ready to receive it.
Tomyris Wolf
